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CLEANING UP YOUR MENTAL MESS with Dr. Caroline Leaf
Why being kind beats being nice every time
In this episode, we explore the profound difference between kindness and niceness. While niceness often prioritizes comfort and approval, kindness is rooted in genuine care, bravery, and authenticity. Discover why being kind—not just nice—fosters trust, deeper connections, and long-term growth.
You’ll also learn about the science of kindness, from its biochemical benefits like releasing dopamine and oxytocin to its proven impact on mental health. Plus, I’ll share practical tips for incorporating kindness into your daily routine, including the ideal ratio of compliments to criticisms (hint: it’s 5.6:1!) and how acts of kindness can create a ripple effect of well-being.
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